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MELISSA PORTER: How are you?

Melissa Porter asks that innocuous question we all ask and reply to every day. But take a step back: How are you really?

How are you? Perhaps you’re at a point in life where you feel fulfilled and on track, or maybe you feel stuck, angry, disappointed and frustrated? Imagine if I told you it’s possible each day to feel like you’re the best of British (regardless of your geographic origins). Would you like to wake up each morning and, just as your feet hit the floor, to feel the excitement of your new day begin to build up inside you?

It is possible to feel like your best version of yourself each and every day, so here are some of my favourite life hacks to help you reach yours:

• Accept that life will be filled with challenges, people and situations that push your buttons. The quality of your life will be determined by the quality of your thinking in relation to these.

• Understand life is a journey and the quality of your experience of this journey is the way you choose to approach life each minute of each day. Grumpy or grateful?

• Become aware that the way you approach life is based on your choices. To make no  choice in a situation is a choice. Your choices will be affected depending on whether your thoughts are based on fear and scarcity, or power and trust. 

• Consider the idea that we are not shaped by our environment but, instead, by the choices we make. The choices we make are inspired by our thoughts. When we choose love-fuelled thoughts – those which are powerful with the knowledge that we are safe and protected – our choices are affected positively, and vice versa.  

• Our thoughts are personal to us and we can control, replace and challenge them. Some of our thoughts are learned from our childhood and, once we become increasingly aware of which thoughts no longer serve us, we can replace them with others that do.

• To become increasingly aware of our thoughts, we quiet our minds through various techniques, such as meditation, walking in nature or eliminating sugar, stress and processed food from our lives. We exercise regularly and surround ourselves with people who inspire and support our transformation into daily happiness. We choose to eliminate gossip, blame, shame and judgement from our life, which are actions and behaviours born from fear-filled thoughts, and don’t serve our bigger picture of achieving daily happiness.

• Understand ‘No’ is a complete sentence, and you’re not required to justify or explain yourself unless you wish.

• Doing what you love and spending money and time on yourself is not selfish. Au contraire, it’s a selfless act of love that will see you become increasingly able to offer others more love and kindness, because of your refreshed and fulfilled self. 

I’m looking forward to bumping into your best self around Cheshire. Much love and light. 

Melissa is a professional, certified transformational life coach (melissaportercoach.com)